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The Law of Giving and Receiving

“God cannot give us anything unless we are in the mental condition to receive the gift.” ~Ernest Holmes, The Science of Mind, Page 470 

The Holidays are here again, which means exchanging gifts, so the Law of Giving and Receiving takes place. Generous giving is emphasized, but it is equally important to be a cheerful and appreciative receiver. There must be a balance of giving and receiving.  

A cheerful receiver is not the same as a taker. I had a relative who was a taker. He was financially well off, but very stingy. He would go to lunch with my mother, and at the end of the meal, announce that he forgot his cash and credit card. He was financially wealthy, but had few friends, and when he died, he didn’t take the money with him. 

Then, there’s the other extreme. Have you ever known someone who always insisted on paying, never allowing you to reciprocate, and wouldn’t accept a gift graciously? “Oh, you don’t need to spend money on me, don’t go to the trouble, etc.” This can be equally frustrating, as it deprives the giver the joy of giving. It is also patronizing. In a healthy relationship, there is a balance of giving and receiving. 

When giving material gifts, I believe it’s the thought, not the monetary value, that is important. The gift of love, friendship, and community service is also part of the Holiday Spirit. This year, many people are alone. Reach out and keep in touch with friends by phone, Facetime, or Zoom, instead of the impersonal texting or emails. Also, accept love and friendship from others. 

Give yourself special gift as well. Each Christmas, I treat myself to something healthy and self-nurturing, such as a massage (not possible this year with social distancing), a new outfit, nature walk, or inspiring book (i.e., Rev. Mike’s Blue Collar Spirituality), or a personal development class (CSL-Granada Hills has great classes available online). 

This season let the Law of Circulation flow – be a generous giver and a cheerful receiver. Give lovingly and receive joyfully. 

A joyful and healthy Holiday to all!

Rev Kathy Lyons

Spiritual Cyberspace

“Mental Correspondents – The inner image in mind which balances the outer objectification of itself. Every objective thing has an inner mental correspondent.”~ Ernest Holmes

Have you noticed how, when searching online, ads will pop up on your Facebook feed or online that corresponds to that search? For instance, if I search for window blinds, I will get advertisements for window blinds.  I was looking for a new dress recently, and different sites that sold women’s clothing came up. Sometimes, this can be a good thing, as I’ve found good products that way. Other times, it is annoying.

What does this have to do with Science of Mind? Just like your online searches are tracked, our thoughts, beliefs, and focus gointo a sort of spiritual cyberspace the Law of Cause and Effect. As you think and believe, the thoughts go into the Universal Subjective Mind, or Law. Just like the advertisements that correspond to your searches, your mental thoughts create the “effect” of your experience. Ernest Holmes, author of The Science of Mind, calls this Mental Correspondents. 

The Law of Cause and Effect, like the internet, can be used in both a positive and negative way. There are positive and uplifting things online, and there are sites that generate fear. I can choose what I search.

My thoughts are similar – If I’m feeling and thinking that I’m worthy, that my life is good, and focus on what I desire, I will demonstrate that outcome. If I’m searching for window blinds, I will not get online ads for dresses. The same is with our thoughts. If I think that everything sucks, that nothing works out for me, that I’m too old, not good enough, etc., that’s what will “out-picture” in a proverbial Facebook page – my own life. 

Rev. Mike McMorrow says in his book, Blue Collar Spirituality, “Consistent mental focus over time demonstrates in our life… let’s make sure those thoughts are thoughts that warrant our attention are creative with the energy of dynamic inspiration and focus. 

This doesn’t mean that we don’t feel pain. Right now, this is a challenging time, where there is sadness, fear, anger, and loneliness. It’s okay to have feelings. Our Center is here to support you. We have practitioners available for prayer. Don’t hesitate to reach out. However, you don’t need to build a “condo” in pain city. It is one thing to have feelings and emotions, but it’s another to harbor self-defeating thoughts of lack, limitation, past mistakes or unworthiness. Rev. Mike also says in his bookIf you feel you are not worthy, you are unconsciously setting yourself up for a fall.

So, let you’re your thoughts and beliefs be like your online searches…positive and what you desire. 

Affirmation: I focus on the good things of life – love, health, prosperity, and creative expression.

Rev Kathy Lyons

The Masks We Wear

“Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” Marianne Williamson

Halloween is next week, a holiday for wearing masks, and there is a variety of masks for different characters. When I was a child, I thought the Frankenstein mask was the scariest. As an adult, the Phantom of the Opera mask was my favorite. This Halloween is different because we have already been wearing masks for several months to protect us from COVID. I have acquired a few different masks. I started out with the plain N95 mask, but later I purchased different color masks to match my outfit, and my favorite is my mask with cat whiskers.

We are all wearing masks to protect us from COVID, but I’m aware of another “mask” that we wear to hide our true self that protects from us from being vulnerable.

In Brene Brown’s book, Daring Greatly, she says that people have told her vulnerability feels like “Taking off the mask and hoping the real me isn’t too disappointing.” Examples of protective “mask”:

• Not being truthful to a friend or partner that something is bothering me
• Not sharing my true feelings and interests with others; hence, they don’t get to know the real me
• Not sharing my accomplishments or positive things about myself for fear looking like a braggart

For me, I’ve used the “mask” of shyness to avoid criticism or rejection. When I first joined Toastmasters in 1992, I attended several meetings before I had the courage to participate in table topics. The first time I spoke, I held onto the lectern because I thought my knees would buckle. With the encouragement of my fellow Toastmasters, I kept doing speeches and practicing until I became more comfortable. It paid off to let myself be vulnerable.

When I decided to become an Animal Minister, I was reluctant to share it with others because some people would think the idea was crazy. But I realized, so what? I knew it was something that would give me fulfillment and provide a service to fellow animal lovers. There is no magical solution to overcoming fear. Just do it. There was a book by Susan Jeffers, Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway. The rewards of stepping out of my comfort zone far exceed anyone’s disapproval.

When you celebrate Halloween, have fun with your costume, keep a physical distance, and chose a festive mask. Wear a mask to protect your health but take off the invisible mask and reveal your true self! As Marianne Williams said, “let your light shine,” and allow others to do the same!

Emerson said, in his essay Self-Reliance, “What I must do is all that concerns me, not what the people think.” 

It takes more energy to trying to be someone I’m not, just to impress people.

Affirmation: I open my heart and share who I am.

Reverend Kathy Lyons

Mid-Year Check in on Those Resolutions

At the beginning of the year I made a promise, I suspect we all did. We made some resolution that was meant to help us stay in the present glorious moment, being perfectly we in our divine uniqueness. We may have made a promise to put ourselves further down our spiritual path.

Now it is mid-year.

I always have to remind myself when I make my resolutions that we were always perfect, from the very beginning. Perfect in our absolute imperfection. Our imperfections, our quirks, our seeming flaws, our weird-nesses, our unique and irreplaceable flavors, are what makes us so love-able, so human, so real, so relate-able. We learn to love the mess of our lives, its constantly changing nature, and its unpredictability.

There just are no problems because we know ourselves as the infinite space of God. Even in our glorious imperfection, we are always a perfect expression of life, a beloved child of the universe, a complete work of art, unique in the world and deserving of all the riches of life. It is never about being a perfect ‘me’.

It is always about being perfectly Here, perfectly ourselves, in all our divine strangeness.

But now, months after we made those resolutions, something gets in the way.

Here is what Howard Thurman says about keeping resolutions, from his book, The Inward Journey.

“Despite the dullness and barrenness of the days that pass, if I search with due diligence, I can always find a deposit left by some former radiance of my resolution.

But I had forgotten. At the time it was fully-orbed, glorious, and resplendent. I was sure that I would never forget. In the moment of its fullness, I was sure that it would illumine my path for all the rest of my journey. I had forgotten how easy it is to forget.

There was no intent to betray what I seemed so sure of at the time. My response was whole, clean, and authentic. But little by little, there crept into my life the dust and grit of the journey. Details, lower-level demands, all kinds of cross currents — nothing momentous, nothing overwhelming, nothing flagrant — just wear and tear. If there had been some direct challenge –a clear-cut issue — I would have fought it to the end, and beyond.

In the quietness of this place, surrounded by the all-pervading Presence of God, my heart whispers:  Keep fresh before me the moments of my High Resolve, that in fair weather or in foul, in good times or in tempests, in the days when the darkness and the foe are nameless or familiar, I may not forget that to which my life is committed.”

Let us keep fresh before us that we are committed to being perfectly Here, perfectly ourselves, living the life of God.

Thank you!

This blog post is from a 5 Minute Talk by Rev. Jessica Fish at a Wednesday night or Sunday service at Center for Spiritual LIving. 5 Minute Talks are always given by a Licensed Practitioner or Minister, and convey observations and experiences of using the Science of Mind teaching in day to day life. For more creative thoughts like this and to learn more about the teaching, read more on our website or attend one of our services.

How To Develop Intuition- with our Healing Support Group

My daughter recently drove non-stop to Dallas, TX for a book lovers convention. She was gone for about 10 more days and did the non-stop drive back from Dallas. Nowadays, with cell phones, texting, and posting on Twitter, Facebook and Instagram, I pretty much knew what she was doing and that she was OK. But we’re never out of touch because of something else- Mother’s intuition.

Intuition is about knowing without a rational explanation. We all have it. It is installed in our DNA.

Ernest Holmes says that spiritual intuition is that part of the human mind, which knows without knowing why it knows, and without being able to ex­plain why what it knows is so. Science of Mind teaches that our conscious connection with the indwelling Spirit opens avenues of intuition.

Intuition is nothing less than God in us, silently awaiting our recognition and cooperation.

Intuition is not a psychic gift. It has nothing to do with reading thoughts, cards, runes, or channeling. Although, Ernest Holmes admits that psychic ability increases as a person deepens their spiritual practice.

Intuition is not a byproduct of enlightenment- it is an instantaneous and spontaneous insight that is revealed to us directly from the Mind of Spirit.

Every person has the ability to commune with Inner Spirit and every person receives his or her unique intuitional answers because the mind we use is the mind of the universe. That is God and it is only through that Mind that we understand it is God. It is God speaking and God answering, in a ­certain sense.

Each one of us has immediate access to the Intelligence of the Universe. Divine Mind has placed an inner guide at the center of everyone’s being, an intuition that causes us to feel, with complete certainty that everything will be all right.

In our teaching we have a tool that strengthens our intuition- visioning. It is one of the three tools we use in our Healing Support Group, which happens every second Sunday of the month in the Sanctuary at 1:00 pm.

There is one side of us that has never entered the shadow of doubt. I invite anyone who has an issue that they are struggling with to come to the Healing Support Group for the opportunity to connect with direct perception of truth of the situation.

There is a light in us that knows the answer — and that is intuition. It is a space where we can be free from all our perceived obstruction and know that we are one with God.

And with God, all things are possible.

Thank you!